Monday, April 12, 2010

Little baby is fed and back to sleep.  Soren is still asleep, so I’m taking advantage of this free moment to enjoy a cup of coffee before Soren is up and ready to come out!!

Well today was supposed to be the day we met our precious little one, but thankfully she turned instead.  The dreadful c-section is far behind me.  I will never forget that and anytime someone tells me they have a breech baby, I’ll share my miracle story with them, there is hope – while slim at 3%, don’t think it can’t happen!

Today is Nils’ first day back at work since having the baby.  Last night was pretty good too.  I was up a few times to nurse, but thankfully he was able to sleep through it – or at least seemed to have slept through it.  I’ll have to check with him again today to ensure he was not disturbed. 

Even Soren had a good night, slept straight through the night without screaming for Mama.  In another week or so, Nils will switch to his new shift which will be 3-11 pm.  At first we thought that might be tough, but we’re committed to making it work.  A job is a job and in this awfully tight economy, we’re grateful!  But after thinking about our patterns and habits, we think it’s going to be okay.  Nils is a night owl, I’m a morning person.  So if he arrives home at 11:30 pm, I’ll be just getting up to do another feeding.  On non-work days, he normally doesn’t come to bed until after 1 am anyway and still manages to get up around 8 am anyway, so on his new work days, he can still be here to help in the morning/afternoon with Soren.  Soren loves to talk walks on the beach, play ball outside, feed the neighbor’s bunny and so on.   Nils will also be working weekends, but same deal, we can easily have two consecutive mid-week days off and make it our weekend. 

I’m most concerned about bed time!  Nils has really become a CHAMPION in that field.  After Soren’s ENT surgery and the trouble we had with him sleeping, Nils took charge and found a way to help soothe Soren to sleep. They have their nightly bath routine, followed by a Dutch book, Of course, the MOO BOOK (Given to us from Tante Liberte at Xmas) – his #1 favorite book, followed by songs in Dutch and night night kisses.  Then off to sleep – sometimes a little fussing but not much.  Amazing!    We talked about the possibility of him coming home during his “dinner” to do this, but that is not going to happen.  We’re going to move his bath from PM to AM so that he can continue to have this fun time with Papa, because that is what it is.. about 25 minutes of splashing and singing and fun and games.  

Perhaps now that Papa will be at work, Soren will allow me to put him back to bed without a major struggle.  It’s so hard when he’s standing in the room yelling, “Mama, come back”, Maaaa Maaaa!”  Oh, makes your heart sink but if you can be strong and leave him for 10 minutes (most often less), he does come to terms with the fact it is bed time and goes to sleep. 

Did I mention how much a great boy he has become.  He is just the apple of my eye!  He talks so much now too.  And loves to help, not just with the baby but with everything.  He of course wants it his way, but that is a stage of independence and we’re letting him have it.  For example, if he wants to eat his food with a spoon and not a fork, okay, that is fine.  He loves to have “Juice” as every kid does not not “Blaaa Water” so we allow it.  I found non-concentrated, no-sugar added apple juice and he is a huge fan of tomato juice, so he gets that too.  Now if I can only get some more Iron into that diet of his.  🙂 

We’ve also been looking hard and strong at our budget to see what items we can cut to help with finances, and we’ve decided we are going to have to pull Soren out of his daycare two days a week.  While it doesn’t seem like a lot, but the $112 per week for 4 weeks is nearly my car payment.  I’m going to tell them tomorrow and give them a few weeks notice.  I hate to do this as he loves it there now and it gives me time to.  Now that I think about this, I might keep it on for the month of April and stop in May.  We figured its spring time now, the weather is getting better, so Soren can play outside more.  Hopefully we can have more play dates here at our place, so I don’t to spend too much time getting them both ready to go out for a few hours then home for nap time.

Okay now it’s time to run, Soren should be up soon and I have lots to do today.  While my mother is coming for a couple hours to help out, it’s really that she’s going to be here to watch and play with Soren while I run a few errands. 

Comparing baby photos of our kids

Today, Thursday, April 6th we have Maebh’s first baby well-visit appointment with Dr. Nicklas.
Here is a photo of Soren during week #2.  He and she share the long fingers!!

Here is a photo of Maebh, with nearly the same crazy hair and long fingers.

Here is a photo of how Soren was lost in his car seat.

You’ll see the next one is of Maebh, also lost in her seat!!
Here is another photo of the two little ones.  This time it’s when they are being put on the scale after birth.

Welcome to the world baby girl: Maebh Neidin was born

So in an effort not to forget too much, I’m going to try to recall everything that happened here.

Going back to my last post, it was 11:49 pm on Monday, April 5th and Nils and I were laying in bed.  Nils was of course, fast asleep.  I was just laying there with my mind racing.  I felt strange movements, lots of pressure down below.  In fact, I felt like the baby was actually turning around inside my belly from Breech to head down (birth position).

As I started to feel more and more contractions start up, I found an app for that on iphone and downloaded software that would help me track the contractions.  I started timing them and they were 40-60 seconds long and were only about 3 minutes apart.  Nils recommended I call the hospital asap and tell them we’re coming in.  As we have a baby in breech position who wanted to come out.  I felt on the other hand, we should at least time them for 20 minutes.  They are going to ask me how long and how far apart they were, and I felt we needed to be prepared with this information.  (over-thinking and following procedures as usual 🙂  So I start to time them, but after only a few, I phoned the hospital directly. We immediately phoned my parents to ask them to come over asap so my mother could be here in the morning when Soren woke up.  Within 30 minutes they were here at the front door.  I’m sitting on a chair, having a contraction, explaining to my mother  what exactly to do with Soren.  In fact, I had already typed up a two page word-document of his daily schedule to follow and keep him on track.  (I did this as I continued to plan on having a c-section and that I’d be in the hospital for 5 nights).   I don’t think anyone read it – I’ll tell you why in a little bit. 🙂

So the contractions now are coming much stronger and it’s 12:55 pm or so and we’re in Nils’ car on the way to the hospital.  I’m squirming and breathing hard during each contraction and they just keep going.  By now the hospital has not yet returned my call, but this time, we knew it was time to get there.  With Soren, we remembered the phrase, “Stay at home as long as you can“.  This time with #2, I knew it would be quicker, just not this quick.

We park the car at MGH, then as we’re walking up to the hospital door, I cannot walk anymore, I’m having yet another.  There is a wheel chair parked so Nils immediately puts me in it, and off we go.  The security notify the Labor and Delivery floor we’re coming and off we go.  Upon arrival, they put me in Triage to get thing situated.  Contractions are going strong, I’m incredibly uncomfortable and it’s all happening very fast.  Unlike with Soren, I labored at home, this is going on hour #2.   They immediately do an ultrasound to verify the babies position.  Again, if he/she were still breech, then we’d be heading for an emergency C-section.  Dr. Lua – tells me I’m 3.75 cm dilated takes one look and says, I think that is an eye and the neck.  The other Dr. confirms.  I said, I just want to be 100% sure that you are not seeing anything wrong and that that is the head.  I don’t want to start pushing to find out that is the bumm.  Nope, the baby moved into head down position!!!  Amazing – only 3% of babies actually move this late int he game.  No one, including my OB thought she’d be moving.

It was now 1:38 am on Tuesday, April 6th.  They said as soon as they could take a few blood viles for labs and start my IV, I’d be able to get my epidural in place.  Well, the first try blows out the vein in my left wrist.  Huge swollen wrist!  Then they try for the vein in my left hand, NOPE, that doesn’t take.  They say they are beautiful, but they wander.  humm… then they try for my right wrist, boom.  Finally they move me to a labor room and call in Anesthesia.  After one final try and another big swollen vein later, they finally they take from my arm.  All along contractions were getting stronger and stronger and I was swearing.  I specifically remember saying SHIIITTT and FUCKKK during a couple of them.

Then around 2:15 am, Dr. Ross, starts the Epidural after lots of legal talking, paper signing, bla bla, just do it, I thought. I need some relief.  But this was not the relief I remembered with Soren’s delivery.  I didn’t suddenly feel any instant relief, my legs started to numb a little, but I still felt those horrible contractions.  He said he’d check back in 20 minutes.   I hand such pressure in my butt. I started to panic that I was pooping. I turned on my side and told Nils to hurry, get me some toilet paper.  Then a minute later, I said, quick get me tons of wet paper towels, I think I’m pooping.  Turns out I did poop a little bit but that was the enormous pressure of the babies head.   The pressure was stronger and stronger, the sense of having to push was worse and worse.  Back in comes Dr. Ross, wondering if I was feeling any relief.  I told him, I think it’s a little better on my upper part of my stomache but I can feel everything down below.  By this time, he said, it is going to take another 20 minutes or so and that I might be ready to push without it being 100%.  Oh no, I was a bit panicked.  I told the Nurse and Dr. at that point, if they have to give me an episiotomy to please be sure I was numb, and I could feel it all right now.  I was so afraid.   Then the nurse told me it was time to push.  Two Drs, Christine my nurse and Nils were all there helping me.  Pushing my way through it and through my screams I felt the baby coming out.  I started to panic as it was burning so much.  After what felt like only 15 minutes max, out comes a baby.  I told them several times, I only wanted Nils to tell me the gender of the baby.  Suddenly, when the baby is put in my arms, Nils said, It’s a GIRL! I was so in shock. Here is the photo of when I was given my girl.

Here is big brother Soren who approves of his little sister “Maze”.
While I did feel like it was a girl, as I felt it was totally opposites of my pregnancy with Soren, from morning sickness to the way I carried and put weight on in my hips. you just never know!  I was so thrilled.  Of course, if she were a he, I’d still be thrilled as it was a healthy baby, but I was more than thrilled it was a GIRL.  I got my wishes, one of each.  As they say in Dutch, the Emperors Wish came true – a son and a daughter!    But she was so much smaller than I remembered Soren to be or maybe it was how big he is now.  They still didn’t weigh her yet, they were delivering the placenta and giving me a few stitches.  I thought maybe 6 pounds, 9 oz.   Turns out to be 7lbs, 2 oz.  with apgar scores of 9 & 9!  Super!!!
We named her Maebh Neidin.  The first name is the old Irish pronunciation of the name Maeve and Neidin is after one of our favorite towns in Ireland, Kenmare. I’m sure it’s gong to be hard at first in the US, but we’ll see how it goes.  Once you hear it you know the “bh” is pronounced “v”.

They took her wiped her up and gave her to me to start nursing immediately.  I swear, she loves to eat!
At about 5:30 am they took me down one floor to Ellison 13 to Postpartum recovery where I would be able to stay until Thursday around noon.  Nils went home after I was settled into my room.  He certainly couldn’t get any sleep on the pull out chair in the room and it was better for him to go home and rest.  When he arrived here, he took my mom home, got Soren ready for daycare and then came home to sleep for a few hours.
Later that day he and Soren were going to come back and visit the baby.

Remember earlier  I said, I don’t think anyone read my schedule for Soren.  During my rush to get out of the house to the hospital, I told my mother and Nils that if they were to send Soren to daycare tomorrow, his bag was packed and ready to go. I guess I meant they check was it and his extra back up clothes were there. I “thought” I said that his blanket and sheet were in the dryer and that they’d have to make him a lunch.  They could just make him a half of sandwich and a banana.  I really know I said this, but who knows… I’ve been known to think I said something and Nils says I didn’t.  ha ha

So Nils drops off Soren at daycare on Tuesday morning.  They are all thrilled to hear of the news of the new baby and learn her name, etc.    So later that day when they arrive to visit me and Maebh Neidin.

I saw Soren was wearing a new jacket. so I said, where did he get that coat?  Huh, Nils said.  I knew it, it was from daycare.  Then I said, what did he have for lunch?  Suddenly, Nils looks at me.  He FORGOT to pack him a lunch. Grrr.  I thought.  Well then again, I’m sure this was not the first time daycare has received a child without a lunch.  It was not until I got home from the hospital until I took out the laundry from the dryer had I realized that the blanket and sheet used for napping was still in the dryer.   Fast forward to two days later, Nils just returned from bringing Soren to daycare and he joked to Hillary saying here is his blanket and sheet.  She turned and said, how about his lunch?  ha ha  They are well-prepared at daycare centers so I am really making more of a joke here.

Well, I don’t have any more time to write now, but the next visit with Soren was great too.  My room overlooked North Station towards Charlestown, so you had a view of the Lechmere Green line AND North Station so Soren was having a great time watching all the Choo Choos!!  He loved it.  Then he was having lots of chuckles with Baby and Mama.  Of course, one he learned how the buttons on the side of the bed work (up and down) he was fixated on doing that.  Even the photo of Soren with Maebh, he was busy trying to work the bed too 🙂

I don’t think I mentioned that Maebh was born the day between my mother’s 60th birthday (April 5) and Nils’ 34th birthday (April 6).   More later when I have time.

Humm… something might be happening

Monday, March 29th
This am I woke up with wet pants and had a slight tinge of color when I peed.  As I had already had an appointment scheduled for today, I figured we’d discuss it at the visit.  When I arrived, they took a swab and looked at it under the magnified glass, but it was not AF (amniotic fluid).  Probably just starting of the bloody show from the cervix.  I also said the baby was not moving as much so they sent me along to MGH Boston for a NST (Non-stress Test) for the fetus.  They simply hooked my belly up to a monitor to count movement and the heartbeats during the movement.  As long as the heartbeat went up by 15 beats at least two times in 20 minutes, we’re fine.  Sure enough, we were fine!

So we continue to wait – baby is still breech.   I’m having a bit of regrets that I didn’t “TRY” to move it, then at the same time, I hear horror stories of the pain and stress caused on the moms and babies.    If he/she has not turned itself, that is because there is a reason, right???

Friday, April 2nd
A couple of days ago I started losing little pieces of my mucus plug, but nothing new to report today.   Same old same old. … baby is still breech and we’re just waiting for any signs of labor to start.

My mom’s birthday is Monday, April 5th – she’ll be 60 and Nils’ birthday is Wednesday, where he’ll 34 this year.  It could be fun to deliver on one of their dates or not?

It’s 11:49 am on Monday, April 5th
Today is my mother’s 60th birthday and on Wednesday is Nils’ 34th.  Imagine if the baby was born right between?  Well anyway, I am not feeling so well.  Aside from terrible heartburn, I’m having some belly pains.  I have been laying in bed for the past two hours, not being able to sleep.  My lower abdomen has been cramping up.  It’s similar to Braxton Hicks, but these are more painful.   I also did have a slightly slimy red bloody thing a few minutes ago after I peed.  Oh and I had to change my pants I was wearing as they were quite wet.  But I am 99% sure it was not enough to say my water broke vs. a  little pee.

I just had a painful moment that lasted about 30 seconds,   I’m going to try to time them more to see if I’m developing a pattern.  Maybe there is an iphone application for that?

Soren is fast asleep and if this is, I’m going to have to call and get my mother over here asap so we can get to MGH.

Ok well, I’m going to try and lay down and see if I can get a little rest in case this is it.  Oh and Nils just came out to say, I can’t go into labor yet as he has not yet had his Pupu Platter from Lucky Garden complete with chicken wings which he eats with his fingers and licks.  GROSS!!

C-Section Scheduled – Monday, April 12th

Based on the baby still being breech on Thursday (and today) my OB went ahead and scheduled me to have a c-section on Monday, April 12. She truly believes a version is not the best option, as it really can cause strain on the baby and often ends in an emergency C=section. She also said per the U/S, I was measuring ahead one week so they also moved my due date to be April 15th.
When I arrive at 6 am, they are going to do another U/S. If the baby did move to head down, they’ll induce and I’ll have he/she vaginally. If not, they’ll go ahead and perform the c-section at 8:30 am. I’m hoping for the vaginal delivery but have accepted this might not be the case.

That day of the birth and day I come home, we’ll have coverage for my son and my DH will take the day off work, but I’m trying to plan for help for the following week. I understand I will stay in the hospital until Friday, providing there are no complications.

I asked how soon could you breastfeed after the c-section and my OB said I should be able to do it within an hour of being back in my room. I’m happy about that too!